(Bundle) Moving Toward Good In A Fat Body Series

How to love yourself in a world that thinks otherwise

In Module 1, EJ Millstone as she introduces you to the Moving Toward Good in A Fat Body Course. This is the introductory module. In this module you will learn about:

  • EJ Millstone background
  • EJ's personal experience with living in a fat body
  • EJ's discovery that it's OK to be fat and how you can relate
  • You don't have to hate yourself
  • You don't have to change yourself to exist, to be loved, to be worth and to be awesome!
  • How EJ uses the word - Fat
  • Using the word Fat as a descriptive word not as a negative connotation
  • The idea of fat being unhealthy
  • Who is fat? What is fatness?
  • What to expect from E-course Moving Toward Good in a Fat Body:
    • Each module will have an interview with a specialist or with EJ.
    • Workbooks included in each module
    • Resource lists at end of each module for your further reading, watching and research pleasure.
    • Facebook group will be in your first paid class.
    • Questions? Email EJ here: [email protected]

Also included in this course is a workbook you can print that will guide you toward a deeper understanding of these topics and help you move toward your own good, as well as resources for further study and some recommended videos.

In Module 2, join EJ and Michelle Allison, RD--the Fat Nutritionist--for an in-depth conversation on eating and wellness in a fat body. Michelle is a registered dietitian in Toronto, Canada. She works online to help people stop dieting, deal with picky eating, and relearn normal eating.

In this course we cover:

--What being healthy actually means

--How to read studies that claim something is healthy with a critical eye

--The medical bias against fat bodies

--Why dieting doesn't work

--What guidelines you can use for eating

--Signs of potentially disordered eating

--How fatness is a cultural symbol for death

...and much more including a cameo from Michelle's cat.

Also included in this course is a workbook you can print that will guide you toward a deeper understanding of these topics and help you move toward your own good, as well as resources for further study and some recommended videos.


In Module 3, join EJ Millstone & Kivan Bay as they discuss the business of Fat Politics. Here are a few of the major points discussed:

  • How Kivan got into the business of Fat Politics
  • Kivan's pronouns- He, Him
  • How Kivan identifies himself
  • Kivan got into the business of Fat Politics when he pointed out a lot of Fat hate and got a lot of push back
  • Kivan then decided that since there was so much push back that he would put all of his time into pointing it out.
  • Read and researched everything he could get his hands on regarding Fat Politics.
  • He was able to identify that others were experiencing injustice because they were considered fat
  • Identifies as Bipolar and so it is very useful for him to receive confirmation that it is ok to be mad that injustice is happening.
  • The experience of fatness can be isolating, it feels like my fault.
  • The world is the problem not me, not my fatness. The world is unjust.
  • No longer feels like he has to convince people that fat-shaming isn't OK
  • How can I look at fat hate from different frameworks and look at the healthism and how capitalism interact.
  • Kivan defines Fatmisia
  • How fat shaming is social bonding for some people
  • Exploring the history of the fat positive & activist movement
  • Fat Hate in the 1800's
  • Fat in relation to homosexuality
  • Fat as a symbol of other things that are socially cast as bad
  • Books referenced are in the resource section of your workbook
  • Rationalized Form- informed by our idea of what ability is, includes a certain size (BMI), a normal weight range and creates in our head the rationalized form that we all want to be "normal".
  • NAAFA- the National Association for the Advancement of Fat Acceptance
  • The Fat Underground- Fat Activism that we understand today
  • Fat Liberation Manifesto 1973
  • Fat Activism is linked to the Lesbian movement of the 1970's
  • Fat Studies as an academic branch
  • Body Positive Movement and how capitalism is using it to sell clothes.
  • Healthism
  • Kivan's Nemisis

Also included in this course is a workbook you can print that will guide you toward a deeper understanding of these topics and help you move toward your own good, as well as resources for further study and some recommended videos.


In Module 4, join EJ Millstone and Priscilla McRoberts, as they talk about shame and judgement and developing resilience and acceptance.

  • About Priscilla
  • Priscilla's background and history
  • How Priscilla came to talk about shame and why it's so important
  • The intersection between fatness and shame both in our culture and in ourselves
  • Shame keeps us oppressed when we shame ourselves
  • How fatness is seen as "It's your fault." in our society
  • Perfectionism & we are enough.
  • Self-Compassion
  • Defining shame
  • The difference between shame and guilt
  • Different forms of shame
  • The quality of the connections we make in our lives
  • Plastic green chairs & wicker chairs
  • Brené Brown on Shame
  • Identifying our values and driving principals that you can't live without.
  • What do you need to fuel your heart?
  • Being seen versus belonging
  • Being vulnerable and building trust
  • Shame versus humiliation, embarrassment and guilty.
  • Humiliation means I feel I don't deserve (fill-in-blank).
  • Shame is this is who I am, I can't change.
  • Guilt, wow I am not lined up with my values, that was a bad choice I made. I can change and not do that again.
  • Act from a place from those values
  • How we can work on the shame message we tell ourselves
  • Understanding how the brain works: Flight, fight or freeze
  • Who told you you are bad?
  • Mindful Self-Compassion
  • Tools to navigate shame
  • Identify the shame triggers
  • What to do when you are triggered
  • Breathing & counting to 5
  • Self-compassion in order to unhook from the shame spiral
  • DBT distress tolerance tools
  • Emotion is held in the body- Feldenkrais
  • Fueling ourselves with Compassion- You can't love people unless you find a way to love yourself.
  • You are worthy of love and belonging right now and we believe that to be true the world get better and allows us to not judge others.

Also included in this course is a workbook you can print that will guide you toward a deeper understanding of these topics and help you move toward your own good, as well as resources for further study and some recommended videos.


In Module 6, join EJ Millstone and Tiana Dodson, as they discuss how we can feel and look your best in the body you've got.

  • About Tiana
  • Tiana's a body liberation coach: she asks each individual what healthy looks like to them along with creating practical action for each unique person.
  • Tiana's Journey
  • How we can talk to ourselves when we don't like how we look
  • Everyone has bad body days
  • Why do we dress and adorn a body we don't always like?
    • Clothing at the base is a protective layer for the body
  • Body partnership: I'm taking care of you because you are taking care of me. It's giving the body basic respect and you doing what you can to support it because it is supporting you. This is basic self-care.
    • Dressing your body is a way to take care of your body, respecting it and supporting it.
  • From the perspective of body partnership are there rules you like people to follow or to ignore?
    • FUCK THE RULES! Break all the rules that you can safely break. But!
    • If safety is an issue then play by all of the rules necessary for you to remain safe.
    • Do what makes you most comfortable
  • Shopping: Sizing is completely arbitrary. It makes no sense and won't be the same from store to store.
    • There is no standardization of the body
    • Ideally measurements are taken by yourself or someone you trust. This is to help you make your shopping experience as best as possible
    • Do pre-shopping online and use their size chart to figure out your size at that particular store.
    • Knowing your measurements can help tell you about your body shape, and can help you figure out what you are a different stores.
    • Having measurements will minimize the bad experience you may have had in the dressing room
  • What gives you the yes feeling when you find something you like?
    • Its different for everyone. When you know you know.
    • Check in with your emotional space not just what you are seeing in the mirror.
    • Clothes are now geared to your emotion. So pick what makes you feel good.
  • How do I best serve myself with what I wear instead of what has been forced on me with rules.
  • How do you work with people on developing a personal style and how they want to walk through the world?
  • How do we develop a style or an aesthetic sense of being?
    • Giving yourself the space to explore your style
    • Experimenting with style
    • YouTube video's about style and un-boxing, search "Torrid Haul"
  • How Tiana advise people who are moving partnering with their body in terms of clothing, how we present ourselves and what we are bringing to the world. How do you help people?
    • Accept where you are and feel free to experiment.
  • Anti-Chaffing practices & Basic hygiene practices
    • Washing practices
    • Preparation
    • Labor
    • Experimentation
  • Find me on Instagram @Onebeautifulyes or Facebook Tiana Dodson or @Tianathecoach


Also included in this course is a workbook you can print that will guide you toward a deeper understanding of these topics and help you move toward your own good, as well as resources for further study and some recommended videos.


In Module 7, EJ Millstone discusses how to navigate the medical system in a fat body

  • Medicine is deeply flawed, bodies are very complicated, and the bulk of what we know is far outweighed by what we do not understand about health, wellness, bodies, metabolism, chemistry, etc.
  • Disclaimer: EJ Millstone is not a doctor and will not be addressing actual medical issues.
  • EJ will be addressing why and how to seek medical care that is supportive of your needs.
  • Correlation vs. Causation in medical diagnoses such as heart disease, diabetes, etc.
  • Correction vs. causation in being fat and eating/sedentary
  • Risk of obesity and diagnoses-- relative risk vs. actual risk
  • Drawing from the definition developed in the module on eating:
    • health is more about making your life as good as it possibly can be, not about being some kind of perfect shape, size, blood count, or function.
    • Bodies are organic and flawed and as in as far as they are designed, they are designed to break down. Nothing organic lasts forever in this world.
  • Weight as a neutral measure just like height.
  • The main thing to know about health and wellness from a medical perspective is that you are worthy of feeling as good as you can in the body you have, not the magical maybe someday body you might have. Right now wellness is as important as wellness when someday you fit the model someone else wants you to.
  • Let's get personal
    • injuries
    • illnesses
    • problems I've ignored due to being fat
    • fibro
    • calf issues
    • anemia fatigue
  • Cancer and IBS
  • Diabetes
    • Can't get it from eating
    • can't get it from being fat
    • correlation sure
  • PCOS and other metabolic Disorders
    • Can't get it from sugar
    • didn't get it because you ate sugar
    • Genetic
  • Mental Health Medication
  • If you can't make your own store bought is fine
  • They can cause weight gain
  • Don't suffer
  • Dr. Google- Not overly helpful. Things to watch for:
    • any kind of specific food recommendation/diet recommendation
    • anything that says "science shows" or "studies show" (in mice)
    • anything with a money making angle
    • anything with restricting food attached to it or trading food for a supplement
    • anything that says clean, well, healthy
    • anything unregulated (though that's not certain, see fat politics module)
  • Medial Bias
    • Personal stories
    • Stories I've heard
    • How to spot medical bias
    • How to call medical bias out
    • How to fire your doctor
    • How to make a complaint
    • We are your employees
    • What might be real vs. What might be bullshit (ie. surgery is hard on fat people--apparently unless it's weight loss surgery which is fine--bullshit being it can't be done)
    • The system should change, not you.
    • Trust your gut
    • White coat syndrome, authority figure belief
  • What if I want to lose weight?
  • What about weight loss surgery?
    • How to find doctors that are fat positive or at least not dicks
    • How to accept that they will be dicks anyway
  • Obesity is not a choice
  • Obesity is a complex socioeconomic, psychological and physiological phenomenon. We can all do things to influence our body weight, but the most important thing is to make sure that we are happy with whatever our healthy body looks like. Obesity is an issue, but the problem is regarding the health of the individual, not whether a given person happens to find the attractive or not.
  • https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/wiring-the-mind/201501/whats-wrong-fat-shaming
  • Closing

Also included in this course is a workbook you can print that will guide you toward a deeper understanding of these topics and help you move toward your own good, as well as resources for further study and some recommended videos.


In Module 8, join E.J. Millstone, LPC, CDWF, and Catherine Lumenello, PLLC, as they discuss Sexuality and Dating in a Fat Body.

  • About Catherine
  • When dating, how does the subject of fatness and fat bodies affect people’s experiences?
  • Let’s talk a little about fetishization of fatness--what’s good, what’s harmful?
  • How do we know if someone is genuinely into us, or just into our bodies (not that there’s anything wrong with that per se)?
  • Are fat people desperate? What if we are feeling desperate and lonely?
  • Most people seem to not find fat bodies attractive, at least if we look at media and society’s view. What if we are struggling to find someone who is attracted to us?
  • How does a person who wants to date meet people who might be interested?
  • How do we ask someone out? Act/be on a date, especially if we are self conscious about the way we look and concerned about things like eating in front of someone? Should we eat in front of someone?
  • Can fat body parts be sexy? What if we don’t experience ourselves as sexy?
  • What if we’re down with fat liberation, but are not attracted to fat bodies? Isn’t it just a preference?
  • I’d like to explore the diversity of human experience of sexuality--what people find hot, not, and what’s “normal.”
  • Is it hard to have sex as a fat person? With a fat person?
  • Let’s do get real about some differences--how might we in fat bodies accommodate for different shapes and body needs?
  • Is it weird that we find (fill in the blank) sexy or hot?
  • What if we are very inexperienced, won’t someone think that’s weird? What should we do to gain experience/comfort with our bodies and sexuality?
  • Where we can find Catherine Lumenello if we’d like to work with Catherine!

Also included in this course is a workbook you can print that will guide you toward a deeper understanding of these topics and help you move toward your own good, as well as resources for further study and some recommended videos.


Your Instructor


EJ Millstone, LPC CDWF
EJ Millstone, LPC CDWF

I am a licensed professional counselor practicing in Tucson, Arizona. I've been in the mental health and self-acceptance field for 15 years and counting, and I love the work. I am also licensed in Brené Brown's The Daring Way(tm), a comprehensive look at shame, vulnerability, bravery and connection that has helped me change my own life for the better.

I have lived in a fat body for my entire life. My hope for these courses is to share what I've learned about health, wellness, happiness, and navigating an unfriendly world in the bodies we've got. And, of course, to help anyone who wants to move a little more toward good.


Course Curriculum


  Module 2: Eating Nutrition & Health
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  Module 3: How did Fat Become a Problem?
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  Module 4: Developing Shame Resilience and Moving Toward Body Acceptance
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  Module 5: Appearance- Feeling & Looking Your Best
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  Module 6: Navigating the Medical System
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  Module 7: Doing It- Sexuality and Dating
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Courses Included with Purchase



Introduction Moving Toward Good In A Fat Body Module 1: Introduction to Fatness
How to love yourself in a world that thinks otherwise
EJ Millstone, LPC CDWF
FREE
Moving Toward Good In A Fat Body Module 2: Eating, Nutrition, and Health
How to love yourself even when the world thinks otherwise
EJ Millstone, LPC CDWF
$10
Moving Toward Good In A Fat Body Module 3: How Fat Became A "Problem"
History of Fat Politics and Discrimination
EJ Millstone, LPC CDWF
$10
Moving Toward Good In A Fat Body Module 4: Developing Shame Resilience and Moving Toward Body Acceptance
EJ Millstone, LPC CDWF
$10
Moving Toward Good in a Fat Body Module 5: Feeling and Looking Your Best In The Body You've Got
EJ Millstone, LPC CDWF
$10
Moving Toward Good in a Fat Body Module 6: Navigating The Medical System In A Fat Body
How to love yourself in a world that thinks otherwise
EJ Millstone, LPC CDWF
$10
Moving Toward Good In A Fat Body Module 7: Doing It- Sexuality and Dating
Doing It- Sexuality and Dating in a Fat Body
EJ Millstone, LPC CDWF
$10

Original Price: $60


Frequently Asked Questions


When does the course start and finish?
The course starts now and never ends! It is a completely self-paced online course - you decide when you start and when you finish.
How long do I have access to the course?
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What if I am unhappy with the course?
We would never want you to be unhappy! If you are unsatisfied with your purchase, contact us in the first 30 days and we will give you a full refund.

The Disclaimer: Regular Words Version

This course is designed and written by me, EJ Millstone. I’m a Licensed Professional Counselor in the state of Arizona. That means a few things:

  1. I am not a doctor. I cannot give medical advice. The medical information I present here will be based on research you can access as well. If you have further questions on medical stuff, please reach out to your doctor.
  2. I am a therapist but not licensed to be your therapist. If you find, after taking this course, you are interested in therapy, please look for someone local to you! If you need help finding someone local, drop me an email and I will help you find your local board listings.
  3. All material I reference that comes from Brene Brown’s research is trademarked by The Daring Way. If you have interest in their programs, check out thedaringway.org.
  4. Any information provided by interviewees is also subject to what their licenses and experience cover. If you want any more information on something they mention and it is not available here, please reach out to them directly or someone local to you that is qualified in that arena.

If you have further questions that are not covered above, feel free to email me! I’m happy to help you locate the right resources for an answer.

(For the full version of the disclaimer with all the legal language, go here.)

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